One of the major points of National Recovery Month is sharing. Sharing stories of recovery; successes and failures of individual journeys; stories of bottoms, slips, and relapses; stories of treatments, forgiveness and hope; all of these things help others in their own journeys of recovery, and they help outsiders see what addiction and recovery are.
This month we want to join in the sharing. We want to be part of the momentum to shine light on addiction recovery, take away the nature of hiding recovery, and bring information to those that are seeking help or understanding.
We started this by releasing our new book 12 Steps Revealed: Questions The 29 most commonly asked questions about all types of addiction (link), and we want to continue it by sharing with and informing others.
Let us know what you are doing in your recovery. What have you done that makes you feel good, helps you stay on track, make this recovery thing easier? It doesn’t matter how small the thing is – as we all know it is the small things that get us through, that make us successful. We want to hear about it.
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Addiction has touched the lives of almost every citizen of this country. And I don’t necessarily mean drug or alcohol addiction – though these two are highly prevalent. I am talking about food and eating addictions, gambling addictions, love, sex, pornography, Internet, or technology addictions as well. Even if you haven’t been affected, someone in your family or close to you has.
Addiction is becoming more widespread, but it’s not being talked about as much as it should. There is still such a sense of shame wrapped up in individual addiction, and the public still has this sense of “It’s personal, we don’t talk about these things”.
These two ways of thinking continue to fuel the addiction cycle. But Nation Recovery Month is about celebrating those that are trying to break that cycle. It is about celebrating and sharing individual recovery stories, successes, failures, and what has been learned. It is about embracing the professionals that help those in need and research this disease – what causes it, what it does, how to stop it. It is about honoring those that live with, love, and help addicts through recovery and beyond.
Recovery Month is a big deal because it reaches out to those that are still active in their addiction and shows them others who have made it out and continue to live a good healthy life in recovery from addiction. It gives a reason for more events to be held, more meetings to take place, more information to circulate so more addicts, or their loved ones, can be reached and shown the way out.
This month take a look in your area for Recovery Month events. See how you can become a part of the change by helping out, starting, attending an event, or circulating information. Addiction affects us all somehow; either on a personal or societal level – so help make a difference.
For more information on National Recovery Month visit the official site
If you are looking to start your journey of recovery, let us help you get started here with 12 Steps Revealed: 29 Most Commonly Asked Questions About All Types of Addiction
In Celebration of the release of 12 Steps Revealed: Questions, The 29 Most Commonly Asked Questions on all Types of Addictions the authors Scott Vogel and Indian Bob will be hosting some live launch party events on Monday, August 26.
Do you have some questions about the book, or the upcoming series? Are you wondering how this book can help you, someone you loved, or one of your clients? Do you want to know how the idea for this book came about, read snippets from the book, or talk to the authors? Then come participate in one of the following launch parties:
Facebook: From noon to 2:30 p.m. on 8/26/13 Indian Bob and Scott will be hosting a live chat on the Recovery Radio Raw Facebook page. To participate click here.
Google+: From 4:30 to 6:30 p.m. the authors will be live on the 12 Steps Revealed Google+ page. To participate in this hangout click here.
Live Radio Show: At 8 p.m. the authors will be live on Recovery Radio Raw talking about the book, for the online channel or the webcam click here.
How Is The Negative Mindset of The Addict Transformed?
Bob: We’re talking about relationships in recovery. We talked a little bit about trust and honesty to develop those relationships, all relating to the first question. The third question people have asked me is “How is the negative mindset of the addict transformed? How is it, all of a sudden,” and I always like that part, “How is it, all of a sudden you guys are better?”
Scott: Well, it’s interesting you say all of a sudden. Kind of like I had a colleague in the speaking business who wisely said “an overnight success takes time.”
Scott: I don’t believe there’s such a thing as, you know, quick transformation. It happens slowly, over time, it’s a process that takes time and happens slowly. And this is one of the most difficult things for any addict or spouse or significant other to hear…We as addicts always want what is quickest and want recovery now, fast, quick…Which unfortunately isn’t going to happen.
The negative mindset took years to develop and it’s going to take time to change. And how does this transformation take place? Well, the first part of step 12 in any of the “A” programs and by “A” I mean anonymous programs such as alcoholics anonymous, narcotics anonymous, sex addicts anonymous, overeaters anonymous, gamblers anonymous, etc. says “having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps”, so transformation comes from a spiritual awakening.
I believe in the throes of any addiction or the disease of addiction, the mind is in a negative state and it needs to be transformed through the process of finding a spiritual awakening to a positive state of being. I believe as addicts we’re kind of spiritually dead because we’re not serving a higher power, we’re serving ourselves. And so the mindset had to change over time.
Bob: And it does take a period of time. And part of that process that we’re going through, the process of 12-step recovery and learning to have a spiritual awakening, there are many spiritual awakenings along the way, and they happen. It’s kind of like honesty. Honesty doesn’t come all at once, it comes in bits and pieces. The truth is what comes all at once. It’s something we have to learn. We’ve told so many lies, and lived so many of them throughout our addiction, so much so, that most of the time we believe our own lies. As a matter of fact, it gets to the point where even for me at times, I would lie even when the truth would work.
Scott: Agreed. It was lying for the sake of lying. I caught myself at times saying “Why did I say that?” There’s absolutely no reason sometimes. It’s not that we lie sometimes because we did something and we’re trying to hide it. As you said, we lie for the sake of lying, It’s a habit we developed in our addictive life. I may have said innocently in a conversation, “Oh, yeah, sure, I know him. Oh, yeah, I know her. Oh, yeah, I’ve see that person, or I’ve gone there,” when it’s like, I don’t know these people, I’ve never been there, what am I talking about? And it has no bearing on anything that I may have done or am trying to hide. It’s just a lie. Plain and simple.
Bob: Yeah, it has no importance, and a lot of times it’s really along the lines of embellishment. So, when I had a full page article written about me, about one of my crimes, it wasn’t enough to just let the article speak for itself. I felt the need to make it much grander. It wasn’t good enough that it was almost a full page section in the local crime blotter, it had to be much more than that.
I needed to embellish and lie to make myself look bigger and better and more important. Because I suffer from the disease of “don’t you know who I think I am?”
Scott: Well, Bob, I think a lot of that comes from the opposite of being humble. When we’re humble, we can be ourselves, and it goes back to an earlier question and a comment of being intimate, and honest, and trusting other people.
When we allow people to see who we truly are, we don’t have to lie. But in the throes of addiction, when we’re not comfortable with the space that we exist in and with who we are, we have to create personas, and we have to become larger than who we are. So we lie, and we make things up so we think people look at us and say “Wow, he’s rich. He’s famous. He knows these people. I want to be like him, or I want to know him,” when in fact, when we really become honest and truthful with another human being, and we admit who we are and what we are, we develop a lot stronger relationship.
Bob: Right, but I also think on the negative mindset aspect of it. I want to back up to that, and the original question was, is that a lot of the times our using, our addiction, is usually everybody else’s fault, or circumstances’ fault. As a matter of fact, the more negative mindset the better for our disease. It provides the justification. “If you had my problems you’d do this, too. If you grew up in the home I did, you’d do this, too.” Those types of scenarios.
And the thing is, the mindset changes when we don’t have the ability to blame anybody anymore, because recovery starts when the blaming stops. This is when changing the negative mindset actually starts to take place, and believe it or not, it takes place in the first step, when we actually take some responsibility by admitting that we’re powerless and that we’re unmanageable. You know, self-honesty, and that’s, to me, where the negative mindset starts to disappear. Not go away completely, but little bits of it start to disappear just by accepting that fact.
Scott: And, Bob, along with that, when we’re in the negative mindset it’s easy for us to create animosity, to create fights, to disagree with people, to be resentful of people, and disagree. Then we can stay in that negative mindset, be angry, and then go use, because “Oh, life is terrible. People are terrible. Look at all the things happening to me, being done to me. There’s only one way that I can feel better, I’m going to go drinking with my buddies, I’m going to go drugging, I’m going to go sexing, whatever.” So that negative mindset, you’re right, is a tool of the addict mind to keep us in that loop and in that cycle.
Bob: Yeah, we feel sorry for ourselves. We play the victim. That’s a big part of it also.
Scott: And in the negative mindset, you talked about step one, in the negative mindset we don’t say that we’re powerless, we say that we’re all powerful. We don’t say our life is unmanageable, we say “What are you talking about? I got up for work this morning, I’m getting everything done.”
Bob: “Yeah, I got a handle on it,”
Scott: “I got it covered.”
What is 12 Steps Revealed Questions?
12 Steps Revealed: Questions. The 29 Most Commonly Asked Questions About All Types of Addiction is the first in a series of books designed to take the reader step by step through the process of understanding, working and living the 12 steps of recovery one step at a time.
Indian Bob, host of Recovery Radio Raw and Scott Vogel, founder of OnSexAddiction.com first began a series talking about sex addiction. During the process we realized people had so many questions about the disease of addiction, all types of addiction. We searched and found there were books written on each separate addiction and a plethora of information about the specific addictions i.e. alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, food addiction, gambling, etc. We realized there was not a body of information that shared the commonalities as well as the differences of each addiction and how it affects the addict, the families, society, peoples lives and relationships as a whole.
We were guided by a higher power we choose to call God, that this book needed to be written to share this information with those seeking help to recovery from the disease of addiction. The beginning of the 12 Steps Revealed series had to start with the questions people asked about all types of addiction.
We set out to list the questions people ask about all types of addiction. The questions are asked by the addicts themselves, their loved ones, families, friends, colleagues, professionals, clergy and any other person dealing with or affected by or curious about the disease of addiction.
These questions apply to every type of addiction; alcohol, drug, sex, gambling, food or any other type of addiction.
As the series progresses each aspect of approaching 12 step recovery, for any addiction, will be revealed to readers.
Recovery is scary enough. The unknown is even more terrifying. But once one can see the path clearly, following it isn’t so difficult.